My Note to LDR

My Little Note for Long Distance Relationship

I was browsing thru a video about how to generate viewers, and one of the case studies on how to make your site successful was to do something your going thru or something love & passionate about, and not to think about the money. She mentioned about a site called Loving From a Distance.

Basically, the author of that site was going thru a long distance relationship with her bf and she came up with that site to help other couples going thru the same thing. This was like a niche part of a relationship, so many sites about the standard relationships, but nothing about long distance. With support groups, guides, games, and other things to do.

Ohhhh!! You’ve guessed it…(k maybe not)
I am currently in one too….Boooyahhh! KINGSTON LIU is in one. Damn straight!! Believe it! 2 months and counting and going strong!!

We skype, we call, we whatsapp, we msn, we sms, we email…. the only thing missing is the real thing….sighhh

• Skype: I top up around Rm45/Au$16/£8 every 2 weeks or 1 month to my skype account so I can call her directly to her phone whenever I want when she is out. I tweaked (jailbreak hax) my iphone to be able to make Skype calls over 3G phone connection, so I don’t have to depend on WIFI, when I’m out. We talk when we are at home.
• Calling: Emergency Time or Bad Connection periods we use direct calls. Or when I’m really needy. Its too expensive to call directly, overseas calls cost £1 a min! I’m a struggling student, so its hard.
• Whatsapp App: Our official Pager/Chat/IM, anytime anywhere, we can just drop each other Messages
• Sms: Occasionally when there is no 3G or Wifi on my phone, we use SMS
• Msn: Use it sometimes, but after whatsapp and skype, hardly use that.
• Email: I’ve created a special email account for her on my @kingstonliu.com, so she’s got a Direct email service for me and her. Its like having her own personal Batman spotlight! tee hee hee

So long distance is kinda hard in a way, but thank god for technology and my awesome geekyness. It makes it less painful, but sometimes it gets pretty tough. All thanks to apple and wonderful Iphone too, all this is possible.

Things we do to lessen the Long Distance Damage.

(Some are facts & some should be read with some sense of humor)

1. Planning things in the future – this allows us to think about the fun times ahead, rather than dreading the present (Highly Recommended).
   • Short term goals: Like…Ohh I’ll see you on skype when I get back.
   • Slightly a bit longer than short term goals: Like…Ohh I’ll see you on skype tonight/ weekend.
   • Slightly longer but still short goals: Like..Ohh I have something to show on skype next week, can’t wait to see you.
   • Longer Goals: Planning a trip when I get back in Christmas. Things to do when I get back. Give some imaginative visual aids like, ohhh I’ll have my six packs when I’m back.
   • Future Long Goals: We’ll be together in the future, where and when.
2. Sending emails to each other. Since email is not instant, so it will prolong the current conversation.
   • Example : She: What are you doing now?  Since I’m busy…I’ll reply 3-5 hours later…and with 3-5 hours x 100 time = 300-500 hours = Many Days!. That reduces the days we are actually apart…and christmas doesn’t seem so far away! (Recommended if used correctly)
   • If you want to go a whole new level, go Old School, do a snail mail (with current UK mail strike). Seeing each other in Christmas will be even sooner! Historically proven it works, as seen in movies with the box full of letters. (Depends)
3. *Arguments/Fight* – This is a tricky one. Actually, not really a good one. Although it delays contact with each other, but hours seems like days for this. Cause you’ll be constantly thinking about the issue & the person. (not recommended)
4. Recording Video conversations from Skype (Mac app called CallRecorder) – Due to time differences, sometimes I’m awake and she’s asleep and vice versa. Hence, with a recording
   Leaving it on Playback Loop makes me feel like she’s around, on cold lonely scary nights.
   • Record her cuteness: This will cheer you up when your sad/depress/stress/lonely.
   • Record her nagging: This enables you to be a better person, when you don’t feel like studying, or being productive. *play it*. You’ll be motivated all of a sudden. (Highly Recommended)
   • Do not record something you’ll regret, if you know what I mean. Images/Videos showing up on gutteruncensored (blocked in malaysia).
5. Do something nice like poetry writing, telling a bedtime story (or story of your day as detailed as possible), singing a song/lullaby to her, cooking and eating it while while chatting.
6. Most importantly TRUST!

I hope my so called “Guide to L.D.R.” is informative & a tad entertaining.

Didn’t know I could be giving such advice.
Ohhhh how the world can be mysterious and full of miracles. lol